How "Being Enough" has a Positive Impact on Your Bottom Line By Laura Fenamore
Many women swing madly between the challenges of dealing with family´s changing face, creating meaningful relationships with who come and go from the family circule and anxiety that whatever they´re doing is not enough or is not good enough. Coach Laura Fenamore discusses how important it is to accept and "be enough".
For fifteen years I was the sales manager at a woman´s gym. One of my job requirements was to make sales calls for corporate accounts. Day after day women would tell me that they had no time for self care. They felt they came last on the list of importance. This is a common story and it is one of the many reasons clients come to work with me.
The story often goes like this, "Laura, when I became a parent, I gave up all my needs as a human." And just today a client of mine who is a very successful attorney said to me, "Laura, maybe I will have some time next month to work out and east better. I just do not have the time to take care of myself this month." These clients are coming to me because they are calling forth life balance, and often, when they realize it requires THEY change, they reconsider the challenge. Often people forget how inspired they felt when they first signed up for coaching. Can any of you relate to this?
I am an optimist. In fact, I say to my clients upfront I live in the land of what is possible. And most of my clients have amazing results and breakthroughs. This article is meant to be a reminder to those of us who spend most of our time making ourselves wrong.
My life as a life coach is to ask powerful questions and support people in "getting out of their own way." I went to see self-help guru Deepak Chopra speak this week and he talked about how suffering is part of the human condition. We make up all kinds of stories and justifications as to why we have no time to change. My theory is that most of us have a rooted core belief that we are "not good enough, smart enough, productive enough, thin enough, etc." It is this core belief that holds us back from having what we really want.
In your journey to success, what are you attached to (my I am not enough story) that is not serving you? And what is the impact that this is having on your career? The best plan for anything in life is starting small and taking baby steps. Small steps work as long as they practiced consistently. If you want to increase sales and feel better about your bottom line, take care of yourself first and success will follow. I suggest you try these simple steps that support you "being enough".
Six simple steps to remind you that you are ENOUGH
Step 1. Create a plan as if your life depended on it. Take 15 minutes in the next 24 hours to write out what you want to change about your life to support your career. What behaviour(s) do you need to let go of that are limiting your success?
Step 2. Practice something new every day. Create a daily practice that will bring this new experience to you effortlessly. Write out what you want. Then do something small every day to support it. It could be reading a daily affirmation http:www.laurafenamore.com/affirmations.html, journaling of listening to something positive everyday that will embody this "new way of being."
Step 3. Share your plan. Share what you want to create with someone you feel safe with. Just doing this simple act will invoke change. I promise you that.
Step 4. Ask for a separation. Ask the voice of your critic, the one that says "You´re not working hard enough" or "you shouldn´t have eaten that" to take a break. Let it know you need a separation for the next couple of months."
Step 5. Make notes to you. Put notes all over your home, workspace, on your nightstand, your bathroom mirror, reminding yourself that you "are enough!"
Step 6. Find a role model. Do an informational interview with someone you admire. Ask them how they broke through limiting beliefs and how their "being-ness" supported their success.
First published in the Lake County Women´s Journal, June-July 2007
28.11.2007
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Laura Fenamore is a gifted Body Esteem and Life Coach. Laura created her company..."Journey to Balance"... devoted exclusively to helping others find balance in their lives and learn to value who they are. Her vision is living in a world where health and body image are celebrated. Laura Fenamore has become a celebrated speaker, lecturer and teacher to thousands of people nationwide. Her approach is unique. Jack Canfield, co-creator of the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series thinks so. So will you. More questions about Laura´s work? Call her toll free 24 hour pre-recorded information line at 1-800 376-0163 Extension # 86017 for body esteem coaching or Extension # 86027 for business/life balance coaching.
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